Tuesday 12 July 2011

Online dating and old fashioned matchmakers


Is online dating really just another name for potential arranged ‘marriages’
Put it this way.. you have a profile- they have a profile – if you like what you read.. you may agree to meet.. sometimes even before you see the person. The bottom line is, you’re both there for the same reason...to see if you 2 could become 1...Ahhhh

Arranged marriage...? You have a profile they have a profile – you like?? Bada Boom Bada Bing you’re in ( If your lucky and not forced that is!)

Mate of mine got married in a similar fashion!!. "Hey..I’m tired of being alone you’re tired of being alone – love will grow – let’s seal the deal..book a date .. good to go
( the love didn’t grow but that’s another matter!!)

It’s practical I guess. Sometimes it’s easier to be straight up. More and more of us are becoming matchmakers for our friends and family.. and why not?? I've quite enjoyed it in the past.

So which do you prefer.. leaving it to fate? - or clicking for a date?
Let's look at some +s and -s

Pro - Saves time
Con - Takes the romance out of it
Pro - You know what you’re getting
Con - You only know what you’re told( getting to know someone takes time)see Pro-1 .. Confusing eh?? ;)

Pro - You meet lots of potential suitors - more choice( yes we can still call them suitors!! )
Con - You meet lot’s of potential suitors!! (too much candy in the shop) one person may start to merge into another after a while
Pro - Removes the risk of 'game playing'
Con - Some of the biggest 'game players' may be lurking online

I love this song from fiddler on the roof interesting lyrics..great movie.. anyway..

We create our own luck sometimes.. take from that what you will!!

Thinking of fate and destiny ..I found some cool quotes...

"Chance is a word void of sense; nothing can exist without a cause"

"How a person masters his fate is more important than what his fate is".
Karl Wilhelm von Humboldt

"You are the master of your own destiny. Use your strengths well. They are the keys to your destiny and your success in life. Once you know yourself and take action to realize your dreams, you can unlock the doors to your own potential".
Neil Somerville

"You are what your deep driving desire is;
As your deep driving desire is, so is your will;
As your will is so is your deed;
As your deed is so is your destiny".
Maitri Upanishads

"Take control of your destiny. Believe in yourself. Ignore those who try to discourage you. Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits. Don't give up and don't give in".
Wanda Carter

"The highest destiny of the individual is to serve rather than to rule".
Albert Einstein

Good night!!x

3 comments:

  1. Love your post seems you hit the nail on the head Potential Arranged Marriage sums it up nicely.......
    'You only know what you’re told'....now this staement rings very true of a few jammie dodgers I came across whilst doing the virtual dating thing.....you just never know who is really in for the long haul.

    Most of the guys literally dip their feet in the waters and if they ind it sightly tepid they run like the wind LOL......despite that I have heard of some happy ever after stories too..

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  2. Same hear - I've heard of some happy ever afters.. I think as people become busier in thier lives it makes sense, perhaps if you approach it as you would finding a new job or new car, searching for a new home, buying new clothes, or shoes.. In fact.. the most important thing in our lives appears to be the only thing we've been encouraged to leave to chance!! I'm a romantic, but to be romantic is also a choice

    I used to think those who did were odd..arranged marriages slightly yukky and calculating.. knowing what I know now.. I don't wholeheartedly think that any more:)

    plentyoffish in an unfortunate name for a service though!! it's like saying plentyofwood.. or... plentyofd*** lol

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  3. LOOOOOOOOL you know datttt POF what a joke I would agree with the plentyofd*** lol....

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